Last week I was at Connor’s awards/graduation ceremony, can not believe he is already done with First grade. I was sitting there waiting for the assembly to start and was thinking about my first week in the class I am currently in for school called “Communications of Theories and Practice.” I was actually thinking about quitting school all together and even today on msn.com there was an article of famous people who not only do not have their college degrees but some never even finished high school. I am having a tough time with this teacher for this class as well as the class it self. I know that this would be a bad idea and it was more of a passing thought and I know that this class will teach me more about communication. Still sitting there in the gym I looked up to see all of these college banners that the kids bring in to show the colleges their parents went to. That really motivated me to say a few choice words to myself and just move on, it is only a five week class. It is truly not to late to still accomplish your goals so do not think about ever quitting on yourself and do what ever it takes to achieve your goals.
I have not talked a lot lately about working out or physical fitness but it is so vital for your mental success and I need to relate a story about again not quitting and push through mental walls. I was invited to go on a hike and if you have ever gone on a hike here in Colorado there are several elements to deal with. I first need to talk about what type of preparation I needed to do for this hike because it has been several years since I have done one. You might of heard of a exercise program called P90X or if you have not I will explain. This workout is tough not only do you use weights but it is a bit fast paced workout as well. My good friend Patrick who runs our local recreation center has been my work out partner on P90X, but then a new challenge was created. Well one day Patrick sent me a text to ask if I wanted to do “Insanity?” This is another program that is well INSANE! The exercise workout for Insanity is pure cardiovascular so no use of weights at all. Well first off my friend Patrick has done several Triathlons and is also a pretty good runner oh and he was also one of the guys on the hike. The first day (again just doing cardio) of the Insanity DVD I could not keep up with the first ten minutes and that was just the warm up. Well that was almost two months ago and I am so grateful to Patrick of switching up our workout. The first hike I ever did again MANY years ago, I hit a wall and wanted to quit and I did not and that was back in the days I did not workout as much or at all. This hike was more of ok I have been working out and let me see what type of shape I am for this. We were on the trail by 8:30 AM and back to the truck at 3:55 PM and it was estimated that we ended up doing 13 miles, and it would have been less but we took a wrong turn. That was no big deal because I really did feel so good not just physically but mentally, I never hit a mental wall. What a great experience of battling the elements and yes I do mean the weather. Not only were there parts of the hike with wind but SNOW, yes the white fluffy stuff, oh and it was sunny when it was coming down with the white flakes. I can not tell you what it meant to see the truck and know that YES I can do….. Guess what? You can as well.
Here is my learning opportunity I want to share with you and I think in my personal opinion is vital to your well being: SUCCESS IS THE ULTIMATE REVENGE. I truly mean this because, don’t you feel great when you get a compliment on a task you have worked hard at and someone let’s you know you did a great job? For me I have not felt successful because my weight has not dropped off as quickly I have wanted it to, but the hike turns out was my revenge towards the sweat and pain of getting into better shape day after day. I want you to think about being that much more successful in your everyday life and turn it into the revenge of the doubters who in the past have said negative things about your ability or skills. I am going to have my revenge with this current teacher with simply passing the class and proving to myself that I can achieve school even when we all hit our mental brick walls. With any type of wall we can go through it, go around it, or even over it but it is not going to stop us from being successful. Find your passion, do what you should be doing, and do not listen to the naysayers because: SUCCESS IS THE ULTIMATE REVENGE.
GO CHICAGO BLACKHAWKS AND BRING HOME THE CUP!!!!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Monday, May 17, 2010
www.yesyoucanmotivation.com (coming SOON!!)
I was driving the other day and had a weird happy thought pop into my head. I was thinking about what I can write to post on my blog and something that I did not really realize occurred to me that I hope will help you out. I know to some of you what I am going to say, especially in these rough economic times is going to sound somewhat well crazy but please trust me. Will you trust me? Thank you for those that said yes.
In less then a years time I was fired not once but twice, one professionally and the other on a personal level. Now I am sure you might be reading this and asking yourself or better yet asking me “how do you get fired on a personal level?” Well let me talk about the professional aspect of the firing first. I knew my mind was not happy working at the job I was at back in 2007, but the fact I was doing a job where I was in front of a group day in and day out, training was still my passion. When you have few individuals who do not have any motivation to be at work, well that can drain you daily and it did. I will admit that my attitude was not the best and my boss Amy J could see it plus the job that I was doing was becoming more and more of a baby sitter type of position then anything else. Well the day came when I had a meeting with Amy and she told me straight that I was not happy and it is creating a negative effect on the department, so I was told to clean out my desk.
I just want to add a little side note that after I was fired my then wife suggested starting my own business of dog walking. I did with her help but this was not MY passion, as much as I love dogs this was to me filler until something that I wanted to do come my way. That job took close to four months to happen but tension in the house was reaching a peak. So you might see where I am going next, or not maybe keep reading then.
Now here is how I was fired on a personal level (oh and yes I do have a point in this blog. You do trust me?) and that is simply getting fired from your marriage. Even within the marriage there is business like decisions and there are times just like when you are speaking to your boss that emotions need to be removed. Well in my case the business decision was more of Donald Trump decision and that is “Your Fired!” Even though both of us were in counseling, I was no longer a good “fit” for the company/marriage therefore I needed to clean out my desk.
Ok maybe you might be thinking “WOW Tommy those are sad stories” or not. I know you have trusted me so the point of the blog has come. For me getting fired in both situations was the best thing that could have happened to me. No I am not drinking or smoking anything at all. The “let go” part of the work area created back then of what do I really want to do as a career? I have always had a passion for travel and computers so that is what I looked for as a career. Up until March 19, 2010 I was a “road warrior” for close to being two years. I was able to see parts of the United States that I would of never had the chance to see unless I took what I was passionate about, plus I was able to learn a new skill of working with computer software. As I am typing this a very good friend of mine Mickey K is helping me put together my new website www.yesyoucanmotivation.com that is going to launch my own speaking business. I am well aware that I could not turn my passion of speaking and motivating people if I was in the same job and the same relationship. I am here to tell you that yes at the moments these two occurrences happened my net worth was at zero, if it was even that high. Again I am here to tell you that it is time to find your true self, your drive, and desire to create the life you deserve to be living starting now. My attitude is that right now I would rather be happy working towards creating MY business then working a job that I have zero passion about. I know this will take time, sweat, and maybe even tears to get off the ground but I will be much happier knowing I am in control of my destiny. If you read this blog last week I now want to ask for a favor. The favor is helping me get my business as a speaker going. The “Niche” that has my speaking fires a blaze are; talking to groups of going through divorce as a child and now as a parent, stay at home parents trying to get back into the work force (I was for two years a stay at home dad), and motivating yourself when you think all hope is lost. Please contact me at thomasmaloneyjr@yahoo.com and we can see how I can help your organization. Plus there will be announcements very soon of the website going live so you can follow me on Twitter @motivationbytdm.
Thank you for coming with me on my continued journey and another new chapter of my life. Please think about what has been written here today and along with that think about how you want the next chapter of your life to be put into words. Have a day and follow your passion.
In less then a years time I was fired not once but twice, one professionally and the other on a personal level. Now I am sure you might be reading this and asking yourself or better yet asking me “how do you get fired on a personal level?” Well let me talk about the professional aspect of the firing first. I knew my mind was not happy working at the job I was at back in 2007, but the fact I was doing a job where I was in front of a group day in and day out, training was still my passion. When you have few individuals who do not have any motivation to be at work, well that can drain you daily and it did. I will admit that my attitude was not the best and my boss Amy J could see it plus the job that I was doing was becoming more and more of a baby sitter type of position then anything else. Well the day came when I had a meeting with Amy and she told me straight that I was not happy and it is creating a negative effect on the department, so I was told to clean out my desk.
I just want to add a little side note that after I was fired my then wife suggested starting my own business of dog walking. I did with her help but this was not MY passion, as much as I love dogs this was to me filler until something that I wanted to do come my way. That job took close to four months to happen but tension in the house was reaching a peak. So you might see where I am going next, or not maybe keep reading then.
Now here is how I was fired on a personal level (oh and yes I do have a point in this blog. You do trust me?) and that is simply getting fired from your marriage. Even within the marriage there is business like decisions and there are times just like when you are speaking to your boss that emotions need to be removed. Well in my case the business decision was more of Donald Trump decision and that is “Your Fired!” Even though both of us were in counseling, I was no longer a good “fit” for the company/marriage therefore I needed to clean out my desk.
Ok maybe you might be thinking “WOW Tommy those are sad stories” or not. I know you have trusted me so the point of the blog has come. For me getting fired in both situations was the best thing that could have happened to me. No I am not drinking or smoking anything at all. The “let go” part of the work area created back then of what do I really want to do as a career? I have always had a passion for travel and computers so that is what I looked for as a career. Up until March 19, 2010 I was a “road warrior” for close to being two years. I was able to see parts of the United States that I would of never had the chance to see unless I took what I was passionate about, plus I was able to learn a new skill of working with computer software. As I am typing this a very good friend of mine Mickey K is helping me put together my new website www.yesyoucanmotivation.com that is going to launch my own speaking business. I am well aware that I could not turn my passion of speaking and motivating people if I was in the same job and the same relationship. I am here to tell you that yes at the moments these two occurrences happened my net worth was at zero, if it was even that high. Again I am here to tell you that it is time to find your true self, your drive, and desire to create the life you deserve to be living starting now. My attitude is that right now I would rather be happy working towards creating MY business then working a job that I have zero passion about. I know this will take time, sweat, and maybe even tears to get off the ground but I will be much happier knowing I am in control of my destiny. If you read this blog last week I now want to ask for a favor. The favor is helping me get my business as a speaker going. The “Niche” that has my speaking fires a blaze are; talking to groups of going through divorce as a child and now as a parent, stay at home parents trying to get back into the work force (I was for two years a stay at home dad), and motivating yourself when you think all hope is lost. Please contact me at thomasmaloneyjr@yahoo.com and we can see how I can help your organization. Plus there will be announcements very soon of the website going live so you can follow me on Twitter @motivationbytdm.
Thank you for coming with me on my continued journey and another new chapter of my life. Please think about what has been written here today and along with that think about how you want the next chapter of your life to be put into words. Have a day and follow your passion.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
What is in your back pack
I am out of here, adios my friends, and peace out as you kids would say. I have had it with my lack luster career life and the time has come. Before starting to write my blogs my head felt that I had nothing to say nor did I feel that anyone would read my stuff. Well being a person who every once in a while needs a push (ok a good kick) I received that kick in the, well never mind, this week from Mike Faber. Mike is a professional speaker and he talks about leadership and has a book on it as well. He is also a member of the National Speakers Association and I met him at the Colorado Chapter. I can not tell you that the hour I spent with Mike (http://www.mikefaber.com/) and explaining to him how I was frustrated receiving job notices from people who wanted me to start my own insurance office. My heart is not into job searching day in and day out. Mike was wonderful at listening to what I want to do. What do I want to do? If you saw the movie “Up in the Air” with George Clooney as the character “Ryan Bingham” who travels the country firing people. Ok this is not what I want to do. Clooney’s character also does a side business as a speaker AND that my friend is what I have want to do. Mike was able to help guide me to creating baby steps to get my goal started.
The next phase is to start a business plan and set some goals for me. For example get in front of groups no matter how small but get speaking and practicing. Another part to this is my branding and no not the type that is very hot and hurts. I am talking about naming the business and starting a website. I have a simple idea that I want to use so please stay tuned for that. Please understand that this IS going to happen.
I am still going out on job interviews (as few as they have been coming in) and with that there are two lessons I learned that I want to share with you. The first lesson is to bring your “A” game everyday of your life. Here is my example I want to give you (someday this will cost you) for free. I am a person who usually over prepares for job interviews and not saying that is a bad thing but I enjoy bring; writing examples, Power Point’s I have created, and recommendation letters. I did not bring my “A” game yesterday and part of the reason was that my mind set was more of a sensation of not feeling a awareness of positive energy from the company. I had a phone interview set for a specific time and the person was 15 minutes late for the call along with no apology. Maybe I am picky about common courtesy. However I did get a face to face interview and as I was sitting there I was thinking that my examples would have been great to of had with me, not to impress but more of a point to show professionalism.
The second life lesson of what I learned about myself yesterday is simply, my passion right now (even not bringing income) are my blogs and the potential of having my own speaking business. I get a sort of giddiness when I was at the Colorado Chapter of the National Speakers Association because I am in a ballroom with people who are doing what I want and will be doing. This is my point to you and that is WHAT IS YOUR PASSION? I am sure you have heard this question many times and that is “What job do you want to do if you did not get paid to do it?” Friends we need to take back ownership of our lives and this is the day to do it because tomorrow never comes. Think about what you rather should be doing and write down the “How’s” of getting there. Find people who are doing the thing you want to DO. Look on the web, go to the local library, attend meetings, network, but stop wishing and find your true passion. I am going to tell you or I guess more of a warning to you and very soon I am going to ask for your help. I know there are business clubs, social clubs, or even a family event and what ever it is I want to speak at your events. I want to show you in person my passion and motivation to be who I was meant to be in THIS life time. Please think about this and let me know how I can be a part of a group meeting you will be having. Please contact me and really let’s help each other out. You can contact me at: thomasmaloneyjr@yahoo.com Operators are standing by, ok not really but you never know.
Right now I am going to take some poetic licensing and if you have seen the move “Up in the Air” you will get it. You have a back pack, and in the back pack there are all of the reasons why you can’t or won’t follow your passion. What is in there? Look in the back pack and stick your hand in it, reach in and pull out the first excuse, look at it. You now have two choices of what to do with that so called excuse; First place it again into the back pack OR throw it away, so what is it going to be? Keep reaching in and keep picking out excuse after excuse and when you are finally done “What is in your back pack?”
The next phase is to start a business plan and set some goals for me. For example get in front of groups no matter how small but get speaking and practicing. Another part to this is my branding and no not the type that is very hot and hurts. I am talking about naming the business and starting a website. I have a simple idea that I want to use so please stay tuned for that. Please understand that this IS going to happen.
I am still going out on job interviews (as few as they have been coming in) and with that there are two lessons I learned that I want to share with you. The first lesson is to bring your “A” game everyday of your life. Here is my example I want to give you (someday this will cost you) for free. I am a person who usually over prepares for job interviews and not saying that is a bad thing but I enjoy bring; writing examples, Power Point’s I have created, and recommendation letters. I did not bring my “A” game yesterday and part of the reason was that my mind set was more of a sensation of not feeling a awareness of positive energy from the company. I had a phone interview set for a specific time and the person was 15 minutes late for the call along with no apology. Maybe I am picky about common courtesy. However I did get a face to face interview and as I was sitting there I was thinking that my examples would have been great to of had with me, not to impress but more of a point to show professionalism.
The second life lesson of what I learned about myself yesterday is simply, my passion right now (even not bringing income) are my blogs and the potential of having my own speaking business. I get a sort of giddiness when I was at the Colorado Chapter of the National Speakers Association because I am in a ballroom with people who are doing what I want and will be doing. This is my point to you and that is WHAT IS YOUR PASSION? I am sure you have heard this question many times and that is “What job do you want to do if you did not get paid to do it?” Friends we need to take back ownership of our lives and this is the day to do it because tomorrow never comes. Think about what you rather should be doing and write down the “How’s” of getting there. Find people who are doing the thing you want to DO. Look on the web, go to the local library, attend meetings, network, but stop wishing and find your true passion. I am going to tell you or I guess more of a warning to you and very soon I am going to ask for your help. I know there are business clubs, social clubs, or even a family event and what ever it is I want to speak at your events. I want to show you in person my passion and motivation to be who I was meant to be in THIS life time. Please think about this and let me know how I can be a part of a group meeting you will be having. Please contact me and really let’s help each other out. You can contact me at: thomasmaloneyjr@yahoo.com Operators are standing by, ok not really but you never know.
Right now I am going to take some poetic licensing and if you have seen the move “Up in the Air” you will get it. You have a back pack, and in the back pack there are all of the reasons why you can’t or won’t follow your passion. What is in there? Look in the back pack and stick your hand in it, reach in and pull out the first excuse, look at it. You now have two choices of what to do with that so called excuse; First place it again into the back pack OR throw it away, so what is it going to be? Keep reaching in and keep picking out excuse after excuse and when you are finally done “What is in your back pack?”
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