Tuesday, December 22, 2009

GAME SET MATCH OF 2009

What a difference a year makes. Soon it will be officially a year since the divorce was finalized, a whole year wow! Also I will submit my goals for 2010, not “New Years Resolutions” those are for rookies. I am talking about and something YOU need to think about “GOAL’S.” However I digress and talk about where we are in our journey.

A year ago I was most likely in the same place I am writing this and that is on the road. Actually I am on a plane writing my thoughts to you. Now I can not tell you how important two words I am going to type will change your life. These two words have really helped me this past year and we all need to incorporate them into every situation we come across. First off I am currently typing not only on a plane but specifically in FIRST CLASS because of these two words. Now let me explain where I got this concept; the book “The Last Lecture.” I know this book has been mentioned before in my blogs, but it is so good and well, life lessons with-in this book are so simple. When I say simple I mean how I ended up in first class tonight. Ok I need to tell you the secret how I am sitting in seat 1 C tonight. I hope you are sitting down, I just asked. Sure I currently have over 122,000 miles (even more after tonight) but I would not be here if I just did not just ask. Please think about taking this principal and creating this into your daily life.

Where have I gone on my journey this year and more importantly will I am going? Let’s talk about this past year shall we? Lets. I still have a job training software and sales and that was to end last month. I received a call from the past project manager and she asked if I would stay on until the project ends. Hold on here and let me get this straight, unemployment or retain a job? I will take the job and the year supply of Turtle wax. Ok still have a job, nevertheless having a break from travel six days a week would have been fine. The bottom line was well I needed the money as crazy as that sounds. Ok working is a good thing. Just asking in a reverse way, they asked me to stay.

I have also been dating someone since February of this year and well she enjoys hockey. We will protect her name and call her Angie. I am very fortunate to have her in my life because of one important reason. My important reason is of course my son Connor. The two of them get along very well and hey both know how to forget to turn off the light inside the garage if they go into the garage to get something. The three of us make up a great team.

A year ago there was no way I thought my life would improve. All I could see was the ground and there were the thoughts of even being lower. I really need say thank you to my mom and dad for their advice and repeating that this will pass. Wholly cow it did pass and guess what? I am very happy. Without having that type of support system my life might be different. I have spoken before how it is important to have people be there and Daryl Gedney was also someone that helped me through this year. She, well let us just say kept me sane. To all of my friends THANK YOU for your emails, calls and hugs (ok I like hugs). I would not be typing this blog to all of you without your support. Chris K I need to say a special thank you for your friendship and being my mentor as a parent. You don’t know how many times I ask how you have raised three great boys on your own. Please give yourself a pat on your back and have one of your favorite beers and send me the bill.

I would regret mentioning how much Dwayne “Mac” McPhail was vital to my life this year. We all knew him as Mac and WOW he was the type of person that you were either on his good side or well not. Mac passed away this year and he was so full of life. I had the pleasure of not only working with him, but clothing shopping with him. I know I could never dress like him nor have his charisma but just knowing we were friends was all I needed. I have several pairs of cufflinks he gave me that I wear and wear with pride. I had the pleasure of meeting his mother and daughter this year and what two strong will people. All of us who knew Mac are better people because of his friendship and leadership while on the job. Mac I love you.

Our journey is getting ready to get even more exciting. I have enrolled back into school at the University of Phoenix. With my travel schedule I will do my classes online and looking forward to the new challenge. December 29, 2009 will be my first day; gosh what do you wear to an online class? I will be majoring in Communication of Technology; I will keep you in the loop as we continue on this new journey.

We are getting close to the end of the year and some people will sit there and write down “resolutions” that will not last long or not even write them down. Ok if you really want to put your self out there and want us to help you with your 2010 GOALS then post them in the comments section! Are you scared?? I have no issues telling you my goals for 2010 and sharing them with all of you. I will not only hold you accountable by keeping me honest, but I need to keep the onus on myself as well. So what do you say? Here are my 2010 GOALS, please no flash photography:

Ø I am going to get down to 175 pounds by June 1.
Ø I am going to maintain a “B” or better average for school.
Ø I am going to have a new job opportunity by March 15.
Ø I am going to have a waist size of 34” by June 1.
Ø I will post twice weekly to both of my Blogs on Monday’s and Friday’s.
Ø I am going to spend more time with Connor.
Ø I am going to get my bike fixed so I can ride with Connor.
Ø I am going to write a business plan by April 5.
Ø I will play hockey by the Summer.
Ø I will take a cooking class.
Ø I will have something I wrote get published in a magazine.
Ø I am going to maintain my weight goals of 175 and 34” waist by December 31.
Ø I will take one of my mom’s yoga classes.
Ø I will look for a mentor to help me achieve becoming a speaker by January 31.
Ø I will try to put the past behind me.

I was thinking about how I was in a book store and looking at all of the self helps books. To see so many of them got me thinking that, heck I could write one. Then I thought no because here is how I am going to save you money. You look at my goals for the New Year, and if you just write down what you want in life, put dates on these goals, and place them where you can see them. Focus on them and work to achieve them you will be successful. Simply if you want to change then no book will make you get up in the morning to go for a walk ONLY YOU!! I want us to say enough of writing down the same goals year after year. To me a goal to write down every year is something like spending more and more time with my son Connor. For you it might be maintaining a healthy weight, but we need to get off of the hamster wheel of life and take control with our hair on fire.

I will have a new post for you on January 3 so please have a great rest of your holiday season, stay safe, and let’s get together again. Until them when we start the next phase of our journey together with new adventures take care and here is how I use to sign off when I was a DJ.

PEACE OUT.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

BE A MENTOR...

First off may I be the first to wish you and your family HAPPY 4TH OF JULY.

Second I have a fun job at times seeing parts of the country and meeting new people. I am a people person so I want to talk to you about your neighborhood and how to motivate on a local level. I had the great pleasure last week of having my son Connor and our dog Keewee over at my place for the whole week. I really felt whole again with the two of them and a sense of family. Now like most of you that have a dog you need to take them out to do well their business. I live in a friendly area near the airport, so much so that I have taken the responsibility of waving to all that drove by as Connor and I walked Keewee. I would like to bring the wave back to all of our neighborhoods as a sign of motivating others with a happy and friendly gesture. Honestly if you do this and at first you will feel silly but well who cares? This will make you feel good with a simple wave of your hand, and the other person will feel good receiving it. Trust me.

One of my good friends Jim L went to a Catholic college in Depere Wisconsin named ST. Norbert College. Now as freshmen you were required to say hello to everyone you walked by. This created a positive habit that would last all four years of school. I would go up there for visits and felt a sense that I needed to continue this tradition even though I was not a student. I felt great by doing this and I still catch myself to this day saying hello to passers walking by.

I have been in offices where some workers high five each other and I join in as well. So think of this as just high fiving your friends when you are waving to others in your neck of the woods. I have had no one waving just one finger at me last week at all. My wish is to bring fun and smiles to our wonderful country that we live in.

Third topic I want to discuss with you is mentoring. I was telling you that I had Connor for the week, and I again felt like a parent. What I mean by this was I had to make sure his homework was done for the week. I worked with him on studying for a test as well as reciting “Twas the Night before Christmas” that he needed to try and memorize for a school assembly. I loved every minute of getting this opportunity with helping him to learn. Normally I do not have a lot of time with him on the weekends so finally I wanted to do my very best to mentor him.

As a trainer I get to see many different management styles since our teams work very closely with the sales departments. If you know me then you understand my passion about being a trainer and creating positive learning environments. At the same time I see how corporations treat employees as far as lack of mentoring and teaching to be not only better managers but better people. I try as a parent to mentor my son by leading by example. There were times last week that he would either ride his bike or scooter while jogging along with Keewee. Now I am hopefully instilling the necessity of physical fitness and being a responsible pet owner. I do not see so called leaders with-in organizations mentoring their people to be successful not just sales people but as an employee. Including the company I work for currently there were no mentor programs to help us become better trainers. This bothers me because you would think that a company would want to mentor their people in such a way that employees would possibly want to stay for long periods. Even with the current unemployment rate of 10.2% companies to me feel that they don’t care if you are unhappy you should be grateful to have a job. That is still no way to treat people, it is vital to mentor each other in these tough times even if your manager does not have the time or resources.

It very much saddens me that when companies need to cut budgets the training is one of the first to be cut. Training people is my passion and I hope that my enthusiasm for training comes out that people want to learn in my classroom. As a matter of fact if you walk by one of my training sessions I guarantee that the students will feel that I am a pretty good mentor but I will wave to you as well.

SHOUT OUT TIME!!!!!

Shout Out to MR.ED you is back on his feet after having surgery.

Shout Out to Angie for her competitive nature and our quest to live healthy life styles.

Shout Out to Patti, you inspire me to be a better trainer and write this blog.

Shout Out to The Nelson/Foos family A.K.A The Miller’s for their ability to let me back into their life.

*********QUESTION*********

What book can you read over and over again to inspire you??